Ashley James says she was initially disappointed about son's gender

‘I didn’t really like men’: New mother Ashley James explains she was ‘upset’ to find out she was having a baby boy because it triggered memories of previous ‘heartbreaks’

Ashley James has admitted she was ‘really upset’ when she first discovered she was having a baby boy. 

The former Made In Chelsea star, 33, explained how she had got to a point in life where she ‘didn’t like men’, and discovering she was expecting a son triggered memories of her previous ‘heartbreaks’.

Ashley and her boyfriend Tom Andrews, 31, welcomed baby Alfie Rivers last month, and she opened up on her experience of gender disappointment on this week’s Made By Mammas podcast.  

‘I didn’t like men’: Ashley James has admitted she was disappointed when she discovered she was having a baby boy (pictured with son Alfie, four weeks, and partner Tom Andrews)

The DJ also touched on being inspired by Cardi B, who proved she can juggle motherhood with her successful career after giving birth to daughter Kulture, now two. 

Recalling the moment she found out Alfie’s sex, the TV star revealed she couldn’t hide her sadness as she found out the news while staying with Tom’s parents.

The influencer reflected: ‘We were excited about the whole process to be honest, but we decided to do the Harmony Test and he was adamant it would be a boy, and I was adamant it would be a girl.

‘When we got the call we were at his parents house and I couldn’t hide, I was really upset, to the point where him and his family were like ”this is awful, why are you upset, it’s great, he’s healthy.”’

Ashley went on to explain her reasoning behind her response as she added: ‘I think from being single so long and having my heart broken a lot…

‘I couldn’t hide it’: In this week’s Made By Mammas podcast, the former Made In Chelsea star, 33, confessed she she was ‘really upset’ about her child’s gender due to her past heartbreaks

Motivation: The DJ also touched on being inspired by Cardi B, who proved she can juggle motherhood with her successful career after giving birth to daughter Kulture, two

‘Also there is this kind of like, sort of social media feminism where it’s really popular to be like ”men are trash”. I think I’d really got it in my head to the point where I didn’t really like men.’

‘It is very common to really want one or the other, and then be disappointed with the outcome.’  

The presenter was single for six years until December 2019, and previously enjoyed brief flings with MIC co-star Ollie Locke, comedian David Walliams and musician Ginuwine.

Elsewhere in the interview, the new mum also compared herself to rapper Cardi B, 28, as she spoke about maintaining a healthy work-life balance after becoming a parent.

 ‘I thought it was a girl!’ Recalling the moment she found out Alfie’s sex, the TV star revealed she couldn’t hide her sadness as she found out the news while staying with Tom’s parents

‘I was single for so long’: Ashley went on to explain her reasoning behind her response

Romance history: The presenter was single for six years until December 2019, and previously enjoyed brief flings with comedian David Walliams and musician Ginuwine (pictured in 2018)

The body confidence advocate said: ‘I love Cardi B because when I found out I was pregnant, I was very much like ”I’m not ready to give up my life”.

‘I started thinking about Cardi B, that she got pregnant at the height of her rap career, and everyone was like ”oh, she’s an idiot, that’s her career over” and she came out and said ”no, I’m going to prove to you, I’m going to have a baby and still have number 1 hits”. 

‘And, ok, she might not be exactly the same as me, like I said it’s a really weird person to compare myself to. But I was like ‘yeah, I’m going to channel my Cardi B, like you can still have a baby and like, you don’t have to give anything up.’ 

The CBB star – who uses her platform to promote self-confidence – also shared how she deals with negativity from online trolls.

Ashley told hosts Zoe Hardman and Georgia Dayton: ‘I call these people online the ”Just You Wait Brigade”, or the ”Negative Nancy’s”.

‘It feels like no matter what stage you’re at, if you express any kind of joy or positivity there’s like an army of people that want to shoot you down.’

On how she’s finding the nation’s third coronavirus lockdown, the social media star admitted: ‘I choose to try and see the positives in everything.

‘So of course it’s s**t that Alf hasn’t got to meet my family and we don’t know when they’ll be able to meet him. Of course there’s some awful things about having a newborn at this specific time. But there’s also some wonderful things.’ 

‘I call them the ”Negative Nancy’s”’: The CBB star – who uses her platform to promote self-confidence – also shared how she deals with negativity from online trolls

The model and tech professional Tom, 30, welcomed their first child on January 9, and recently said giving birth was more difficult than the two marathons she has run.

She told HELLO! magazine: ‘I love being a mum. Every day I love him more. Before he came along, I suffered from anxiety, but now I feel calm and content, as if I was made to be a mum.

‘I’ve run two marathons, but giving birth is harder. I was in labour for 18 hours, but Tommy was with me all the way, holding my hand. And when Alfie finally emerged, it was amazing. 

‘I used to think that I didn’t want children. Now I can’t imagine not wanting a baby or being without him.’ 

Made By Mammas: The Podcast is hosted by TV Presenter & Radio Broadcaster Zoe Hardman and Georgia Dayton as they bring their mummy blog to life.

Each episode sees Zoe and Georgia chat to a famous face or an expert in their field on a host of topics ranging from pregnancy to sleep to activities to do with little ones, and so much more! 

‘I was in labour for 18 hours, but Tommy was with me all the way, holding my hand’: The model and tech professional Tom, 30, welcomed their first child on January 9

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